MariS,
Monday is not really any diff than Fri, Sat or Sun. As usual, W and & I spent lots of time together over weekend. S8 played in soccer tourny all weekend. Spent all weekend @ fields & restaurants inbetween games. One minute W is joking and giving me good humored cr@p like we used to. Next minute moody, distant w/ "don't touch me " attitude. Tried to talk w/ her Sat. This was strictly to set up a time that we could sit and talk about M&R and what W plans were on timeframe of serving D paperwork. Yes, I know we're not supposed to bring up R&M&D, but their are too many things that are not adding up and have flip/flopped from 3 months ago. Well even though Sat. convo was only supposed to be to set up a meeting time, one of the things that came out was why W decided she wasn't going try anymore. W didn't feel I was paying attention to her requests; and since I wasn't, that's why she felt it wasn't worth her time to work on M any more. One of her comments set off a little alarm in my head. She kept mentioning her list. This list was something W had suggested and I agreed would be very helpful. It was supposed to be of things that had bothered her and things she felt were creating some of the issues. B/c there had been a past comm. prob we thought it would be a good thing. Besides, I'm a guy. I need detailed instructions to understand what I'm supposed to do. Also thought b/c of past misinterp. that W would right down and then we'd go over for me to confirm I understood. Good plan \:\) Never happened \:\( She kept telling me she was going write it down for me. W never gave me the list even though I kept asking for it. When she brought up the "list", I remindered her she never gave it to me, so I wasn't exactly sure what it was that had been bother her for all this time; therefore I couldn't be working on all things she wanted me to. So it wasn't that I was ignoring what she had been requesting me to do. I still didn't know. She had never followed through on what we had agreed to. I had tried to come up w/ my own list for her, but obvisously wasn't a good list. It did make her think a littlebit, but I don't know if it will be enough to get me another effort on her part.

As far as supporting her decesion to move back down to the basement, I can't do that for the fact that will tip off S8 about what's going.

I still can't let go of hope there might be a slim chance (I know this contradicts what I wrote Friday). I thinking snowball here I'm still not overly optimistic. Friends (H&W) of W and mine sent e-mail today, offering any help they can to our sitch. Offering to come to town to watch Ss. Offering to keep Ss for weekend, etc to give W and I time alone. They've known what has been going on for the last yr.+ I've known them for almost 20yrs and W has known them since we first met (16yrs). We were part of bigger group that all used to go out together, includes Ss' godparents. Still do sometimes. All Ws used to be gfs. When our sitch first started, they offered support to both of W & I, individually. Didn't try to take sides. None of our f did. W would never reply or respond to offers of support or friendship. She recently wrote another gf of hers that all of the other Ws were ganging up on her and taking my side b/c they were x-college f of mine. In actuality, she completely isolated herself from them. Never would call, e-mail, go out w/ them. The w/e that W dropped new bomb, they emailed wanting to know how we were doing. We hadn't spoken w/ them for a month or more. They sent e-mail to my work and W work. I filled them in on the newest surprise bombing. She never responded. They sent another email today (again to both of us), offering any help to us that we wanted (above). When I emailed W this afternoon about some things, I also included an inquiry about taking them up on their offer. She wouldn't admit to ever getting either email from them. I know she got the emails. Our f got an automatic response from W system that it had been received. Same as last time.

We'll wait & see what happens 2nite. Tried contacting W earlier about plans for this evening. Left vm. No reply. Things just cold, distant and "all quiet on the western fron". ;\)

RGM