8,

Think things through. Don't discuss it yet with her until you've discussed it with your lawyer.

I think it's possible to prevent them from being with OM without an all out war with your wife. Talk to your lawyer about that.

The fact that you get them most of the time is good. She's essentially walking away from them.

In my part of the country, moms get the kids even if they are having multiple affairs.

--Theoden