VC - this type of behaviour is fine if the parties are mutually on the same page. However, if you are dealing with a psychological problem (i.e. a disorder such as the one I believe my H to have - Madonna/Whore complex) it can really backfire on you

If I was to do something like flash my H, he would be totally disgusted by it and it would just push him away all the more.

You have to know what you are dealing with before you take the leap - it might not be as positive as you would like

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)