I've got to second & third what Hey said up above. If it hasn't happened to you, you have absolutely no idea what it feels like to know that your spouse actually had emotional and/or physical feelings for someone other than you and how devestating that is -- that your soul mate could do that to you.

I've been through 2 EA's, 1 PA and now another EA. If you knew my H, you would never believe he would do such things. If you knew me, you wouldn't understand WHY. (not being conceited or anything, but I'm not what you would call a bad catch). However, our M was all messed up, but he made the choice to do those things rather than try to fix things or help me fix things earlier.

All I'm saying is it is SO VERY HARD to get over and I still don't know how or when you DO get over it. Like Hey said, you question everything. All was great & wonderful & then one little thing like he doesn't say ILY when we get off the phone while he's at work and you instantly WONDER.

It sucks, that's all I have to say.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10