OK, I replied too quickly.... another thought came to mind.... one the dovetails with Nop's comments.... how do you know your H has come clean? How do you know when you should feel reassured and be willing to work with him? What if there are other things he did that you do not know about? How will you ever know?
If Chrome came clean about EAs 1 & 2, how will his W know that she should still not trust him because there might be a potential EA 3 & 4 still out there? OTOH, if he did not tell her about EA #2, will divulging that make her feel better? Will it help move the marriage and the trust levels forward? Or will it help him feel better about himself so that he can project the confidence that is otherwise being blocked by his guilt? Will lack of guilt actually translate into more confidence or will it not make any difference?
