I was writing on here when my husband of 8 years left me unexpectedly. I was devastated, as most of us are when we come here for support. The wonderful people here helped me gain some much needed perspective on the situation. If I didnt say it before, thank you.
He left at the end of December.
When I found out in March that he had been cheating on me for 6 months before he left, I gave up hope and decided to get over the entire fiasco. I stopped coming here because I didnt want to be reminded about what I had lost and the heartbreak I was going through. Detached is an understatement for me, I am no longer "In love" with him.
He told his parents what he had done, they kicked him out. Told him that he was not the person they had thought. So, true to form, he goes to her house.
He filed for divorce, I got a lawyer, and the saga starts to come to an end, right? Well that's what I thought too. Wrong.
Last night we met at O'Charleys to see if we could agree on all the settlement/child support stuff. (his idea) My lawyer is like $375 an hour and because of our income ratios he is required to pay my attorney fees. (BTW, that'll scare anyone into agreement.) So we order dinner and have a beer and we start talking. We met at 8:30, by 9:00 he was crying. He said he had wanted to come back home from the day he left but was completely consumed with guilt for cheating. Long story short... he wants to work on us. Why dont I feel excited?
I have no idea what I am going to do? I need some advice from the piecing crew. How do you get over the blow of detaching - how do you fall back in love? And is that saying "Once a cheater....." is that really true? Please share your thoughts, I am lost.
