As a mother, I too cannot understand your W's choices. But she deserves some...."credit" I guess, for knowing she is not the parent to have the kids, so she isn't ditching the M and taking your kids from you. Hey, it could be worse. SO, I believe that you getting the kids is GREAT for you, them and I even think that to the extent your wife may someday "wake up", it will happen sooner b/c you have the kids and that is just too much for most women to handle for long. Be careful though, IF you do want to save the M. Her shame will be great, and eventually will surface. So, you have to Keep the Road Home Paved and Smooth, if reconciliation is your goal. Even if it is not, it'll help your kids to see a forgiving, compassionate approach with her. It'll be hard enough for her to try to come back, please don't make it harder than it already will be. Besides, anger, even if it is totally justified, will consume you AND hurt the kids. Try to see that forgiving her, with or without her knowing, is what's best for You and the kids.
Focussing on your kids and GAL, (which does NOT include dating in front of your kids, if at all) is the right thing to do AND, no mother is unmoved by the father of her children lovingly interacting with them. Good luck, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
