Unfortunately, he can do all of those things, but until SHE is ready to make the changes or see that some changes would be good for HER and not just HIM, it ain't gonna happen.

Sounds exactly like me and all I did was get mad or defensive when H tried to talk to me about stuff. Not saying you need to go to the extreme of threatening D, but that's what it took w/ me.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10