Trying to piece at last

[NikB]

Stillme asked me to drop by so I'm here catching up - first and foremost, hooray for all the good baby steps!!! This is wonderful.

Those what-if's are awful aren't they? I'm there too and trying to get them out of my head. A few thoughts for you though...

1 Nothing changes in his feelings and I'm back to square one?

You can't control him, so don't worry about this. Make sure that you are who YOU want to be, and happy with you. If you've made real and lasting changes in yourself you'll NEVER be back to "square one," right?? That's how I feel right now, anyway.

2 What if the oldest daughter doesnt want him to come home and that is why she is playing up.

Can't control her either, unfortunately.

But - I'd say that you have a tough job right now, which is to show your whole family that you can be happy together.

I commented once in my thread that I was afraid of Piecing because I didn't want to "quit having fun and start the hard work" - several people made the very good point that THAT is what it's all about. Showing your H (and in your case your D also) that because of the changes you've made, you CAN have a happy R and family.

3 What if things do change but he doesnt say cos he is enjoying life as it is.

If he's enjoying life with you and your D - just go with it!! That's what you want ultimately, right, is for all of you to be happy and enjoy life??