Cobra, FWIW, I agree with you about the change statements you made.
I also believe that this..."I think she is hearing is that she needs to become a different woman, like the one you had the EA with" is exactly what she thinks he's wanting her to be. That is why I say she is still in a great deal of pain over his EA. Her statement regarding him wanting her to be like HER, said it all to me. She's interpereting his words/actions to mean that he wants her to be more like the woman that he had his A with. So, not only is that impossible in her eyes...it's also hurtful to her, because that would be very easy to interperet as "not good enough".
