Is it over for me?

[Yoyowife]

I had a baby step yesterday.

After church my daughters and I went out to eat. While eating oldest D got a phone call from my H wanting to know where we were. He was at the house to uncover the pool. She told him we would be home soon to help him. When we got there he was mowing the yard. I looked at the caller ID and I had a missed call from him and a missed call on my cell, it was on silent from church. So he tried to contact me before he called D.

After we got finished with the pool. I decided it was time to have a talk with him. I asked him if he loved the OW because if he did I would walk away and let them be happy. I know it goes againtst DB, but it goes along with the Dobson book "Love Must Be Tough". He said I don't love her and I don't see her after work.

He said this has been hard on me too. He said many a nights I lie in bed thinking about this. He said when I left we didn't have anything in common anymore. I said do you still feel that way. He didn't answer that one. I said what about 20 years of marriage and two children. He said I know, but I got tired of watching tv by myself in the bedroom. Even though I think that was his choice to do that, I didn't say that. I just said I'm sorry and I was wrong I was too wrapped up with the girls. He said if I was to come home now you would come in there and watch tv, but it wouldn't be what you like to watch and that wouldn't be fair to you. I said you are wrong, I would come in there because I want to be with you. I asked if he had talked to his attorney again (last time he talked to him was in Dec. just to get advice)and he said no. He asked if I had talked to mine. I said I don't have an attorney. So it sounds like he is confused and not ready to file for divorce.

I stopped talking about it because I didn't want to get into an argument or start crying. We then had a good conversation about or daughters and their upcoming plans.

I invited him to stay for dinner. I had to go to the grocery store and he and oldest D stayed on the deck and had a good visit. We had a nice dinner. When he left he kissed my bye.

So my question is what now? I know not to pursue, but is there anything else I should be doing? We have many things to do together coming up in May. We have to move daughter home from college, youngest D has dance recital, and we are doing some volunteer work together on Memorial Day.