Maybe this won't speak directly to your point but I've been hanging out a lot lately with a female friend who is quite LD. We've been talking a lot about my divorce and my dating so a lot of "sharing" has been going on between us. Over and over again she had said "I never understood that until I heard it from a woman's POV" when I tell her about the downside of being the HD spouse. For instance, she asked me why MBing wasn't good enough and I explained a bit and then used the analogy "Would you be happy with a doll instead of a real baby?" and her reaction was total chagrin like she suddenly got it. So.....I'm not sure exactly what I'm recommending here but it seems to me that if there are two sides to solving this kind of problem, being the manly man is only one half. Somehow your wife needs to gain insight.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
