After this weekend I don't know if my exW is MLC or just emotionally unstable person. If saw the old her yesterday and it was not what I was expecting.
After not talking to her since Thursday, I promised I would helo her put mulch down at her house on Sunday after my D10 basketball game. I picked up my D and exW around 11:30am and as soon as she got in the trunk I could tell she was a little standoffish. She had her arms crossed the whole time, she was pleasant but certainly not interactive with me like she was last Sunday (after we ML the night before). On the way home I saw the bitchy side of her emerge. We stopped at the deli to get some sandwichs and she got bitchy with two people in the store for no reason. One lady asked if she was in line, she snapped back "if your standing behind this person you are" then a minute later she is using her debit card and the cashier asked "credit or debit?" My wife did not hear her, so the cashier said it again, my wife barks back "you should speak up a little louder" No she has a puss on her face so the break the tension I say "you had a bigger smile on your face last Sunday" She said "your dilusional" Huh?
Back to her house to mulch and I got a around to asking why she said I was dilusional, she said she was agravated.
After we were done, we sitting on the front step drinking water and I asked her a question that was bothering me about the sex last week. We did not use protection, so I asked her if she was using any with her previous b/f's. She said sometimes, but once they were a b/f then no. She said don't worry I am clean I was tested in Oct. I was like why? No reason just being careful. So I had to say, "did you sleep with that many guys" She said don't ask me questions like that. She said you can never be too careful. I made a comment about how great the sex was and she said yeah it was good time. I ask her if it felt like before, she said no, the physical was the same but things are different now, not the same as we were married.
I go to leave and we give each other a big tight hug, I tell her I love her. She does not reply. First time she has not replied.
I don't how she can be all affectionate on Mon/Tues and now cold as ice.
This was the person I remember from the past three years.
I am being to think she is not MLC and just emotionally scared
I don't know if this is part of the process or she can shut down her emotions fast like that.
I was also doing some other soul searching since this all began.
She has never asked me how I am doing
She has never asked me how my day was or how work is going
When I was at the Dr on Wed, she never asked what I was there for?
She has never invited me to dinner either by our selves or with D10. I have done this a dozen times.
