I mistakenly posted this in the newcomers section - think maybe it is more appropriate here in SSM (although it wasn't actually sex-starved, that's the odd thing). But some of you have really helped me out before and I could sure use some help today. - today's a bad one. Thanks O.
STORY: We've been together 19 years. 2 d's 8 and 4. My h had an A. He said it was over. He said he didn't have sex. He said he had had no contact since I found out. He said his plane was late. He needed exercise so went on bike rides with our daughters crying to go with him. He doesn't go anywhere without his phone.
We were (I was, I guess) reconciling, trying to forgive and move on, going out with friends, making love, being with our children, making plans for holidays and the future.
Then I found a photo on his phone. "I didn't tell you because we are getting on so fantastically - she sent it to me but I didn't respond so she's got the message".
Then there was a document on his computer. "I don't remember writing it - it was before you found out"
I left to stay with friends and to think about things. He begged me to come back. We did. His girls coming back to make a go of it and be a family again. He was late to the airport.
Forward to now. He has to go and have a blood test to see if he has any horrible diseases. His phone bill for last month was 840 euros (about 1,100 dollars). He made 180 texts and 63 calls to her last month alone. He met her at the airport and spent time with her until his regular scheduled flight time to come home. He was late to the airport because he was talking to her in the car. I didn't expect flowers or balloons, but I did expect honesty and no more deceit.
She has just turned 21 for %$�!s sake.
Now he says it is REALLY over (again) and has PROMISED me (again) to be a good husband and father and REALLY PROMISED that he won't contact her (again).
How can I ever trust him? How can he possibly expect me to give him yet another chance? Not once has he come clean on anything, I have found it all out the hard way. He is still lying to me. I am still constantly feeling sick and dazed.
The man I married is gone. I don't see anywhere to go except away from him and his deceit and lies. I really don't think that this divorce can be busted.
