It's so hard because I know ML was a bone of contention in our M, so I want to show him that I'm working on it and that I DO want him, but at the same time, it makes me feel used to have him come home, we ML, and then he goes back to her.
It's actually a really difficult irony and I sincerely get how tough this one must be for you.
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Maybe I wait until it comes up again?
Good idea. It is an awkward conversation - and it's best to have those when the issue is hot rather than some random discussion point. I think random issue discussion is a woman thing, men would prefer to have the talk if and when they need to.
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I have an appointment with both my regular doctor tomorrow and my counselor.
Good. How is your relationship with your counselor now? I remember you didn't feel you clicked with her inititially - is it feeling a better fit now? How does she think you are going?
Tam, I do know how hard this is for you and I think sometimes I'm too hard on you because you know what to do, you know when you're off target and you know when you are getting it right. I think you have so much potential and you have so much to gain from this experience. Unfortunately you have to go through hell to get to the other side.
I just said to someone this weekend, that my marriage break down is the absolute worst thing that has ever happened to me but it's also been absolutely the best thing that could have happened for me. You will get to that stage too.
Sleep well.
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
