Worked around the house all day, spring cleaning type thing. So tonight she planned to go to dinner with a friend. In the past this would have led to a fight. I grew up with Sunday nights being family night. We all knew my mom and dad wanted us to stay home, have dinner together and that kind of thing. My W doesn't really want to do that right now, due to the issues between us. In the past, when she has gone somewhere on Sunday night, we have had words about it. Today, I did a total 180. Didn't say anything about it except have a great night and she looks great. She told me about this dinner shortly after she got home earlier today. All I said was, okay and went back to working on cleaning out the garage. Kept every conversation light, friendly and a tad bit flirtatious every now and then.
When it came time for her to leave, I was happy, (PMA/Act as if), and pleasant. She gave me a kiss and hug and told me how great the garage looked. She also said I should stop now and go in with the kids, just mellow out as I've been working at it all day.
That was when I noticed she is wearing the ring again. I didn't react. I had a bit of an epiphany earlier. While looking through a pile of pictures I found in a box left over from our move I found some pictures from a few years ago. In one of the pictures she looks so happy sitting with me at some sort of social function. She is feeding me a piece of cake from her plate, she is a lefty so she is holding the fork in her left hand, it was than that I noticed something. She wasn't wearing her band that night and I didn't even notice. She was wearing a ring on that finger, but it was a fun, gaudy type thing, I remember that ring when she bought it. We laughed and she made a comment about costume jewelry. At that time, we were happy most of the time and for sure that night, so I never even noticed. I quite sure there was no significance at that time in her not wearing her wedding rings.
So why am I sweating it now? I shouldn't. Funny how little things like that can get to us until we see or hear something to bring us back to reality and slow the panic train. LOL
