The fat lady is warming up.... 2

[alamogirl]

Hey OldFool,

Thanks for linking your thread...it saved me some time.

You know, I'm trying to make that clean break from my H, but daggummit...I'm expecting a refund from the tax assessors' office. I double paid...what a dummy! The check is in both our names, so I need him to endorse it. I'm thinking of mailing it to him (before I endorse it) with a stamped addressed envelope.

I must say that I found some of the last posts on your thread very interesting. I can relate to almost everyone. Even though I'm moving on, I still play things over in my head. I'm not obsessive about it...I think it's normal, and it will go away in time. Trust me...this is the second time I've been down this awful road.

One of my friends thinks that the reason my WAH calls me from time to time is because he can't get over the fact that I've let him go without a fight. I don't know if that's true. If there is something I learned from my first divorce...it was that "you cannot make someone be with you when they no longer want to be with you." Yes, I know...I've got a knack for attracting the wrong men...ha! That marriage lasted 1 yr/9 mo. We actually lived together as man/wife for 9 mo. Anyway, my second husband knew how I felt about separation/divorce, so IF it's indeed true what my friend thinks, H should know better. I still love my H dearly, but I love myself too, and I have to watch out for my well-being so I'm moving on. That's the way I know how to heal from the pain.

What I've been feeling very sad about are the senseless killings at Virginia Tech. When things like this happen, it just puts things into perspective...at least it does for me. My problems are minimal compared to what the survivors of the deceased are going through :-(. May G-d comfort them, and give them strength.

Well, I guess I will close for now. I wish you the very best in your job search. I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

All my best,
alamogirl