who is stopping you I am stopping me because H wouldn't go (he is not into music - especially not live) so I would go alone/with a girlfriend. If that happened I would go crazy because I would a) end up getting laid b) end up wanting to get laid so bad that my eyeballs would melt. Remember I am the HD one here. It is bad enough not getting any but hanging around places where you can dance/get drunk/get hit on and STILL not get laid is torture. So I won't do it.
Yes H does the car stuff (now) I used to for a few years after we'd had the kids because it seemed he thought the deal was: he brings in the income I do EVERYTHING (and I mean everything) else. Well that wasn't very even when I was SAHM and now I'm back at work we renegotiated and we agreed I do everything else except for: the car, his laundry, minor bits of DIY as they arise.
Believe me Lou, he doesn't stop a four day moody unless the problem has been rooted out. The problem was somewhere between the car and a need to keep his distance. Sometimes I wonder if he might be an avoidant personality. He certainly has some of the characteristics, although I don't believe he has a full-blown personality disorder.
This weekend he was about to head over to the office first thing on Saturday morning when I managed to talk him out of it. I reminded him not to get into the mindset that Saturday is a working day, and also that when he worked last Saturday he didn't get much done because he needed other people to be working too. So he agreed it probably wasn't going to be very effective. So far he has spent the weekend kind of bored and a bit resentful and heaving great sighs of "I suppose I should mow the lawn" or whatever.
Lou, what made you wake up and realise that life doesn't need to be work, work, work. That fun and relaxation can play a part. Lately I've been thinking about different people's attitudes to their to-do list. Everyone has one whether they keep it as an actual written list or whether they just keep a list in their minds. And it seems to me that every item on that list can fall into one of three categories: have to do it, should do it, want to do it. Now everyone (sensible) gets on with the have tos and then they have a choice they could either tackle the shoulds or they could skip the shoulds and do the want tos. Mr Hap is definitely someone who feels the need to get all the shoulds out of the way before moving to the want tos. Myself I prefer the want tos. The shoulds can wait to another day. Usually if you do that then the shoulds either turn themselves into have tos or disappear - LOL!
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
