Sorry to hear about your W's decision. My own sitch has suffered a major setback, and I know how hard it is to fight off the sadness and depression that comes with it.
You still seem to be handling it extraordinarilly well. I am trying to follow your good example of detaching. I too wonder how long I can continue this charade with my W. It detracts me from other important things in my life, and I know it's not healthy for me...I constantly fight the urge to obsess.
Quote: I can't help but wonder if the recent overtures to me were a means of keeping me "in equipoise", so that she could go about her relationship with him with a minimum of disturbance from me.
The same thoughts have been running through my head for the past 10 days or so. You can't help but wonder about it.
Quote: Incidentally, since $$ seems to be a major issue for her, I have been seriously thinking of exploring the possibility of a so-called "mid-marriage agreement" wherein a disposition of assets and allocation of rights and obligations is made while H and W are still together. Sounds like a pretty good way of getting one troublespot out of the way while a H and W remain under the same roof.
I wish I could give a little advice on this, but I don't know much about it. If it will protect you and you feel comfortable with it, I say go for it. It might just send a little message to the W as well.
Good luck Sam. Keep up the good job of DBing. I'm praying for you, every day.
