Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[andyv]

Another down day today,

My W went to a tupperware party with DD, and then went to cousins birthday party (cousin invited me also, however W did not want me there). Also at the party were all my BIL's and SIL's and all their children (who are supportive of me and against what W is doing).

They got home at 1 am this morning (DD is only 7). I spoke to DD this morning and she told me OM was at the party (she knows him as mummy's kickboxing coach).

This cousin has been supportive of me and has told me that OM is not interested in W, as she is 10 years his senior and with child, but they are good friends poss EA). She knows him through kick boxing also.

I am thinking that maybe this is true now that he has attended a family function where you would think that he would be hidden if it was PA, and they were a couple???? If not it would be pretty F'd-up to do it (have him there), if W has denied a relationship, other than friend.

Or maybe this was an opportunity to introduce him, and have him accepted in the family????? Her family are eastern european with strong family values and would not tolerate any type of freindship EA, PA or platonic with other males (eg constant contact friendship, casual would be okay to them). My MIL and FIL were not at the party.

I have also been told that W has lied about alot of things eg visiting the lawyers to note separation, drawing up divorce papers etc etc. I have also been told that she is telling me what I want to know eg OM. Before DB'ing, I was accusing her of seeing someone, and she kept denying it, then she admitted she was interested in someone but did not know if he felt the same way.......I was told that she told me this to get me off her back and to continue with my life (she is suffering from MLC and depression).

Any takes on this one,

p.s I have always expected the worst in regards to OM, so it would not be a suprise if they have hidden it quite well. But I also know my W (17 years) and don't think she would have it in her to start anything serious.