Hi Sam, Been dropping in from time to time. You seem to be able to keep both feet firmly on the ground, and its beginning to pay off.
This latest post is really great news. I know what you mean about being reserve though. I, too, for the first few weeks was waiting for the other shoe to drop. That's not to say there won't some rough days ahead. There will be days where she continues to have some doubts and will be distant, but those periods will shorten and come around less often.
No need to shift any gears here, just keep doing what you been doing as it is definately working. Continue to focus on stringing those good days together so they outnumber the bad. This will help reinforce she is making the right decision to work on M when she hits a rough time.
One area that can be worked on now that will help draw you closer is to open up the lines of communication. Not talking about OR talk directly, but encourage her to express her feelings and thoughts, if she directs them towards OR that's fine, if not that's OK too. You want to make is it a safe environment and for her to feel comfortable to share her inner thoughts with you, then the OR talks will come.
As Saphire says, its a good time to re-read DR. You will find some new approaches that can be used when there are two back in the M.
