Quote: Interestingly, I felt no jubilation or triumph at her decision, knowing that it could be reversed at any time; but, I was satisfied that my DB’ing seemed to be pointing us in the right direction. I am most aware that we’re at a delicate pass, and that progress will be made slowly and haltingly
And I believe your response is really excellently healthy too! I resonate with it - when my H first said he would end A, I even told him he was moving too hastily, he needed to think more first!
The fact that your W clearly has thought through really carefully before making this statement to you seems hugely positive. It doesn't sound like a whim, but her considered position.
I can tell you (as I think you already see for yourself) that some of the most painful stuff is still ahead of you! Hang onto your DBing, and keep reminding yourself of your ultimate goal. I found it so easy to slip into the mode that, 'you hurt me: now you want our M to continue - you must do a whole lot of hard running to make it up to me'
Of course its not like that: I cant tell you how often I would have to scuttle away to reread Michelle's words about this stage. (while crying!). But you have been shown a light at the end of the tunnel (or is the better analogy perhaps a piece of cheese?!)
