Quote: I finally couldn't stand acting like I didn't care where he was or who he was with
In my case, it's no longer acting. In the beginning, it was; however, it’s become second nature now, and I really don’t have any fear or anxiety when I think about them being together. I see this as her problem, her struggle, and I don’t want any part of it.
Sapphire: I mis-spoke when I said that both of us had read the Dobson and Harley books. W had purchased the Dobson book a while back, thinking that it dealt with teenagers -- but, she has never actually read it. She did, however, read the Harley book, and in fact, sent OM a Harley letter (“leave me alone, it’s over", etc.). But, unfortunately, it was a ruse to pacify me, and she immediately resumed contact with OM after sending the letter. I think that it’s too soon, frankly, for me to take the position which you did with your H. Things seem to be working well (albeit slowly) by my detaching, paying attention to my own needs, and DB’ing in general.
Robbie: Yes, I’m keeping up the “loving detachment” you refer to. Once I got the hang of it, the pain really subsided. As you can tell from my last post, though, I'm getting somewhat impatient with the pace of things.
