Good morning, Sam. I was wondering where you had run off to. Glad to see you back.
Sometimes no progress...status quo, as you put it...is not a bad thing. These things are never consistent. Two steps forward, one step back, then two back and one forward, maybe a sidestep here and there. Like an awkward little dance. Sometimes, we just need to stop and take a breather.
It sounds to me like you and W are establishing a friendship again. She's not interested in romance, and might not be for some time. As others have told me about my own wife, she needs a friend more than a husband right now.
I think you are doing exactly what you should be doing. Pursue your own interests and activities, with an occasion invite to her, just to test the waters.
Quote: I've made my peace with the notion that it's really up to her now.
Exactly right. It's always been up to her. She's the one who bailed out emotionally...she's the one that has to return. All you can do is try to make yourself and your life attractive and appealing to her. I've been told that we are trying to attract our spouses back like moths to a candle. The brighter the flame, the more the attraction.
Keep up the loving detachment. Keep up the good work. Keep the flame burning bright.
