Life goes on, and it ain't about Job

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Theo;
Already have a lawyer, picked up the paper work, have an appointment on Monday. Don't have any answers yet.

She wants joint physical and legal custody with the primary res. being here with me. She wants to have them every other weekend, 2 weeks per month over summer, half of spring break, even and odd years holidays. Basically she wants me to do all the hard work and she can just have fun. She is offering $150.00 a month in child support, requesting spousal maintenance, and that I pay her legal fees. THIS IS SUCH B@llSH!T. All of that in addition to half of everything for being a chickensh!t quitter who is walking away from her family and her children.

I think I am done. Now I am pissed. She is engaged to someone else and is requesting spousal support? She is offering less then 10% of her income in child support? Her legal fees? WTF?

Here is my idea of a plan. I get full legal and physical custody, she can visit when she wants, but must give visitation schedule 30 days in advance and must visit children without POS. She can see them here any holiday she so chooses, as long as they are here and her b*ttfaced OM isn't. She can pay $350.00 (less than 1/2 of one paycheck) a month in child support until she is married, then we can base it on their household income, not just her's. Child support should continue until the kids graduate from college. She should pay me support for lost income, and to compensate for additional duties I now perform. That support should continue until I remarry. She should pay all of the legal fees associated with her divorce.

I do not initiate contact with W, when she calls about something, I am pleasant, but very short. Answers are very few words, followed by long pauses at which point I say "is that all you needed?, OK good by." I have documented her current affair, or at least the two of them conducting themselves as husband and wife prior to her moving out, I have evidence of an addmition from at least one other person confirming an additional affair, and I am working on proof of a third. I think I need to sick the big dogs on OM, scrape under all the rocks, and see what they come up with.

The sad part is that if my wife asked to sit down and talk about things, I would say I am not sure they can be fixed, but I would be willing to have that discussion. I just don't see being able to trust her again. When the lawyer asked what my priorities were, I said insulate my kids from this insanity, protect all of us financially, and if possible save my marriage. Very different order then 6 months ago.