ANewBob: Thanks for replying. Yes, it's HER drama to resolve and I try not to get drawn into it. When she says that she's going to "run some errands," I no longer ask where; nor do I get that sickly, sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach any more. Truth is, if you had told me last April that we'd have come this far, I would have said that you're hallucinating. Nevertheless, pretty soon it'll have been one year, and I really would like more of a quality relationship with a higher degree of intimacy.
KAW: Thanks to you also! Yes, I realize that since she's chosen to stay, and not leave home, we are piecing. But...the pieces are microscopic and if my M were a jigsaw puzzle, it'd take forever to fit the pieces together. I have been concentrating on my PMA, and in doing so, I realize how much of my sense of self I've lost in the last few years. So, I've gradually begun to reclaim those pieces of my self by resuming discarded hobbies, re-connecting with old friends (including some from high school) doing things on my own, etc. It's an interesting journey to say the least.
