Quote: Also, it is important to recognize that the breakdown of a marriage is the responsibility of both parties. You helped. Own that, change the things you did to contribute, and move on.
Z, yes, I'm pretty much aware of my role in this mess and am doing my best to clean it up. Strange, but I'm no longer anxious or upset when I think of the two of them together -- almost as though I don't care, as though I'm no longer a character in the melodrama. I've forced myself to imagine them in every conceivable type of situation, but I don't have that emotional reaction. That's either the result of successful DBing, or I've become emotionally anesthetized. Whatever, but it sure beats that old panicky feeling. Sam
