A search under my user name will lead to my full story as posted under Newcomers and MLC. Receiving little response there, I thought I'd have better luck on this forum.
In short, we continue to live and do many family things together, tho EA (PA?) was discovered last April, and are in counseling together. Counselor is sorta Solution Based, and a good guy. She has been insisting throughout the counseling that she has cut off all contact with OM, but I have hard proof to the contrary.
My question is: should I confront her again with my knowledge (as I did originally -- which led to the counseling), or keep it to myself and continue to DB as I have, and let her play out her confused melodrama on her own? I've gotta say, it's tough to keep PMA, act "as if" all's OK, and continue on with my own life, all the while knowing that she still speaks with him and sees him, on the sly.
Also, should I let the counselor know what I know, and if so, how can I do it in W's presence during a C session? Or is it time to stop the joint counseling altogether under the present (deceptive) circumstances?
