GEL - my H has had horrible relationships in the past too - just reinforcing the W/M role
Two of his relationships cheated on him too - the real sad part about it is his two daughters (from his first marriage) think their parents split because their father cheated on their mother, when it was the other way around. They are both older now with children of their own. I tried to discuss the matter with one of them one day and they wouldn't hear of it - it was their father, plain and simple, their grandparents "had confirmed it" - well, duh ya!! of course their grandparents thought that, that's what their daughter told them - sheesh.
Sounds like your H came from a pretty restricted family also. I know my husband's parent NEVER showed emotion to each other. They stayed together for 50 years but never showed loving gestures to each other, at least not in front of others.
As for the escorts, yes it is in the past, however, for at least the last 4-5 months he was seeing the last one, he wasn't involved with her sexually, just got together to talk and gave her money for her time. He told her it was "wrong" what they were doing so he knew, deep down, there was a real problem
Although he was open to reading the article I gave him, he did say "are you trying to analyze again" - so I hear where you are coming from. He thinks I am always trying to "fix" him. And, its interesting because my husband says the same thing "I wonder what it would have been like if we had met 20 years ago) - seems like they kinda regret their past choices huh?
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
