I did make the decision to decline the overnight outing to the neice's skating performance. My W didn't seem to care whether or not I went this time.
She may have given the impression of not caring one way or the other, but I bet she did notice that something has changed. Sometimes the most effective way to get a message across is with soft action, like breaking the expectation bar.
Originally Posted By: Concerned_Listener
My W slept elsewhere on Wednesday and Friday nights. Her patterns of 2-3X per week persists.
From the many other cases here, this will only change when the boredom sets in, and that can only happen if no one treats it like a taboo. It must be so hard for you, but you are able to look at the much bigger picture here. But there is a natural cycle at play here. Given that she is working on improving the home I'd say whatever she goes away for cannot possibly be that serious.
Originally Posted By: Concerned_Listener
You then hope that the W who likely is in MLC, or struggling with depression will respond and eventually join you. If not, then you shake your head, as you know that she will experience the consequences of her poor judgment, at some point.
Yup, this is the most positive way to go about it. Just keep it in your minds for those moments when the situation seems hopeless. You can work through this.
