Slowly and Friends, I did make the decision to decline the overnight outing to the neice's skating performance. My W didn't seem to care whether or not I went this time.
I also made the decision to attend my neice's religious ceremony in Boston on my own. I don't think it would be a positive experience at this time if my W went. I'll have to rehearse a line to explain to family why my W didn't attend.
My W slept elsewhere on Wednesday and Friday nights. Her patterns of 2-3X per week persists.
She and I practiced dancing together last night. She shares with me tips that she has learned from her dance instructor. I make sure to thank her for sharing those with me, and am grateful for her time and attention.
She continues with her handyman projects. She caulked the bathtub earlier this week. It looks great! I think these projects give her a sense of accomplishment. It's important to her that I praise her for her work.
I went to the drug store last night and bought about $60 worth of toiletries. I was on the phone with her, making sure that I got exactly what she wanted. She was appreciative of me keeping her stocked-up with her bathroom supplies.
I went to my dance venue tonight and had a wonderful time. She didn't join us this time.
I'm trying to cultivate and maintain a PMA, with the help of this online community, and the book, "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway." I do think the only way thru this is to live a life larger than your marital problems, increase your social connections,and participate in meaningful activities (GAL). You then hope that the W who likely is in MLC, or struggling with depression will respond and eventually join you. If not, then you shake your head, as you know that she will experience the consequences of her poor judgment, at some point.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
