Whore/Madonna Syndrome

[Heywyre]

Yes, we have been going every week (just about) together but we also have one-on-ones too. As a matter of fact, I haven't had one for a while but while at his office today I booked an appointment by myself for this coming Monday so that will give me an opportunity to address that issue, amongst others, that I just don't feel comfortable about right now.

My H and I have talked about the W/M syndrome and he has heard about it but is still reluctant to believe it applies to him. I think the more we talk about it (especially if the C brings it up with him individually) he will begin to see how it matches his thinking

I am very much looking forward to my single session on Monday - I especially need it right now because my H seems to have moved much quicker through all of this than me and I am still stuck in the mis-trusting mode (understandably) and need some guidance as to how to move past it

As much as I was devastated by the Ax2 my H had, there is some soloce in knowing he did not have much of an emotional connection with either of them (as they were escorts and both quite young) however, he did see each of them regularly over a period of about a year each (one in 2002 and the other one in 2006) so I guess there was a bonding of some sort, but being that they were in the profession to "please" they would obviously tell him anything he wanted to hear, just for the cash. He seems to have got over that connection quite quickly, which indicates to me there wasn't much of any emotional ties.

This just confirms the theory all the more than it is the W/M syndrome because it was not like he met someone, and they connected. He sought them out for one purpose only (although his theory is somewhat different - he says it was to "help them" get out of their situation. Basically, I see that as his "excuse" to justify what he did. He is a VERY empathetic person and he has always stuck up for the underdog and tried to help the less fortunate but I think this time he went just a little too far)