And, asking her to be accountable is asking her to lie.
Plain and simple.
We all learned that lesson early on, with MLC.
While I lived with my H, I could SEE the internal struggle. The lies, the pull to "try one more time, forcibly" to be a good H, and the pull to go and do what he wanted.
Pretty soon, I stopped asking anything, let him lie. Whatever.
Then I moved out and he went full force replay.
That was meant to happen, he had to go there. And so does your W.
Let go.
It is torture, but then you stop wondering, thinking. You are still close to the incident, give it some time and push yourself to get on with your life.
What aer YOU doing tonight?
It took me a LONG while, I would say even until yesterday to cut all the cords, invisible and visible. It comes with time, but you slowly start to realize this is NOT about you, it's about them, and there isn't anything you can do, and after a while, nothing you want to do.
Sure, you can rationalize all the crap that comes out of her mouth, but why bother? It's so stupid to begin with, and such a waste of time.
You know what reality is, your perceptions. Stick to that, and let her go.
Easier said than done. Next week will be a little better and then the week after that.
One day at a time, and detaching gets easier and getting on with living gets easier.
