Still Pushing That @#$%ed Rock!

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MD,

I can see a lot of similarities in our wives. I don't have an OM to deal with, but many of the actions and comments are the same.

My W's friends are not good friend. Thy are a bad influence on her.

She thinks that I don't like her to be with her friends.

Thinking back to evens since our fight in November, I can see that she was planning on leaving since them. However, in December, on our cruise, she was actively looking in to a cruise for the whole family for this year. Odd if she was planning on leaving.

She says to me, that she doesn't see herslef spending another 10 years with me.

She says Sex hasn't been that good. (What she doesn't realize is that it takes 2 to make good sex and she has been detached for a several months)

Your wife seems to have questionable friends like mine does. How much of a role do you think they play in her chosing to leave? In my case, I think they play a lot of a role. I think my wifes bad friend has been pushing her to leave for a long time. It sounds terrible, but I know of another woman that has directly influenced 4 of her friends to leave their husbands!

The other thing about the things that they say, I think it is excuses both in there minds to justify their actions and to get you to stop pursueing them.

I know you are questioning your future with your W right now, but I firmly believe mine will come back. It is what keeps my PMA going. Like Grace says "What you think is what you create", so brush off her comments, file them under "Crazy woman is talking" and carry on.

She will wake up and if you are there for her through this, when she does wake up, you will be the natural person for her to come to. You are the father of her children, not the asswipe OM, and that is HUGE to women. (sorry to generalize, ladies)