Thanks kml and Holly06 and HeartScared for the feedback.
I figure accusing her outright, even if I feel she is trying to get me to do so is the absolute wrong thing to do. Maybe trying to find a way to diffuse her guilt and show her that if she has done something like an A that it might not be the death of our R. Right now personally I don't know how I'll handle it, maybe that is why I'm trying to prepare for it.
I've alway though in my head that infidelity would be an absolute line to not be crossed, it is a dealbreaker and that I'd be done with her if she did that. Now I've learned and read so much from people on here and I've seen that people can get thru it and learn to trust again. I've also found just how deep my love for her is. So now I question my steadfastness on this issue and consider if I can maybe deal with it and if so how...
