You read around here that many others say the same thing...."I have felt this way for a long time, but stayed to keep the peace and am finally living for myself."
You hear it so often, is it MLC speak? Or truth?
Like everything else MLC, some of the things have a little truth in it.
Yes, you could have been different. Regardless of your background and how that made you act, it hurt her nonetheless....that is that.
But, what is now is now.
And, for a person who was unhappy for 10 years and is now finding their best selves, they usually don't do it with a heavy dose of dysfunctional destruction.
I'm not saying that this isn't her purpose of the "quest"....but, we're not talking the Oprah show or Joel Osteen in living your best life, finding your true self, being authentic.
Not, that's not the "approach" with MLC.
Possibly the same goal, very loosely, but not sane, rational and healthy.
Here's the other twists of MLC that I see as different than just wanting more out of life and walking away in yoru best interest: * Changing your own personal value systems. I saw my H lose a lot of his personal value systems that meant a lot to him his entire life (money, work integrity, his schedule, lifestyle) * Doing things that have nothign to do with your M, and wrecking your life in ways outside of the M. My H drained himself financially, not my doing and nothing to do with our M. He ruined his reputation, suffered from depression, thought he was seeing things, and was wreckless in so many ways. THis had nothing to do with teh "stranglehold" of our M....and yet he was so destructive to himself.
