What you think, you create. I know at times I think it's hopeless too. I wear a nice thick rubber band on my wrist for just such an occasion. SNAP!
Keep in mind she's re-writing and looking at your history through s&!t colored glasses. Sadly there's nothing you can do about it. Didn't we all make mistakes and miscommunicate, she still has/had a responsibility to you and your family.
Do let her/it go and detach as best you can. Understanding yourself is alot to get out of this mess you know.....
