When we discussed this with our MC quite some time back she believed that it was his way of making me back down and take the pressure off of him sexually....and that by doing that I was the one ending the sexual contact so he wouldn't feel bad.
YES!!! Absolutely he has done something like that. Actually, anytime I would try and initiate anything with him he would laugh or giggle. It infuriated me because here I am, trying to be sexual with my H and he's laughing? So, just like your C said, I would back off and then I would be the one ending the session. Needless to say, it doesn't exactly encourage you to keep trying either.
And its true what you say about it not being us that should initiate. It has to be them that makes the effort. The odd time (and I say VERY odd) time my H will cuddle up to me and I can feel him getting aroused but will he go any further - no!! If anything, he usually turns the other way so it won't go any further, using some lame excuse that his back hurts, or something.
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
