Cissy, YOu know that he has to hit rock bottom before he quits drinking, don't you? Obviously, losing a job didn't quite do it. I hate to think of what will... They say step one of getting over your addiction is to admit that you have a problem. He's not even to step one yet.
Nopkins is right.. you cannot even begin to build your R until he stops his drinking.. I am so sorry you are in this situation.