Chromosphere I agree with you. My friend is in the early stages of marital issues...and is in need of some good advise. He is at the point of trying to not care and do his own thing. Now if someone would have been around to tell me three yrs ago to work hard, read these books, don't give up, fight for you family and marriage...I might not be so far off. I worry for my friend. He is in a spot where I do think I only hear his side...but often I am speaking objectively and using things from you guys as well as encouraging the SSM book. But in his frame of mind and feeling no affection from his wife...I could see that my helping him and talking with him may be a distraction for him. It could conjure feelings.

Anyway, my situation has really been crummy the last few days. H came back from trip and has been nothing but short fused with kids and has made me feel quite badly if I needed to leave in the evening. Like he has worked all day and now he has to deal with the kids. I mean geez, you have been gone for 4 days. Kids are work, homework, etc....but geez I just thought...be positive or go back on a trip. He was much nicer over the phone than in person. I know he has some stuff with work on his mind...but i do believe that just in general, parenting and dealing with the school stuff is aggravating to him. But it shouldn't just be my job. His job ends when he leaves work...mine never ends...and ya know what...he should be an equal part of it when he walks thru the door! Just unhappy right now. \:\( Was hopeful a few days ago and reading the 5LL and now I just feel like I lost a lot of my spark.