H doesn't like our couch. He says it is uncomfortable. But we do sit together sometimes. Sometimes he leans against the arm at the opposite end from me and puts his feet in my lap. Occasionally I put my feet in his lap. On a rare occasion, we sit next to each other. He doesn't like to put his arm around me. He says he can't get comfortable. I lean against him instead and we hold hands. I like it, but would like it even more if he caressed my arm or played with my hair...
Taking D and BF to a movie is a possibility--if there was one they wanted to see. They haven't seen anything they are interested in going to lately. H's mom lives in a nursing home near us. She has Alzheimer's. The rest of his family is in Oregon and California. Mine is in Washington. We are in Kansas.
Also, H says that he is too tired during the week. I think that if things went right, he would forget about being tired, though. Time on weekends is also limited because I work one day each weekend. Grandma is added to the equation one of those days. He brings her over for a visit if we don't have much going on. If we have places to go or too many things to do, he doesn't pick her up.
We stayed overnight in a hotel once a year or so ago. Our son was still living at home at the time. Now we feel a little guilty leaving D home alone without much to do and nobody to talk to. But if we don't go on an occasional date, it makes her feel bad. She doesn't want to feel like she keeps us from going out. So we do go out once in a while.
We don't go to church. D used to have a friend that she went with a couple of times on a church outing. She enjoyed it, but she doesn't like that person anymore and wants nothing to do with church anymore. The thing that led to her depression, made her a disbeliever. She has found some reason to not like all of her previous friends. Her BF is a Senior and will be going to a local college next fall. She is a Sophmore. That will leave her with nobody to hang with at school next year. Maybe she will make some new friends. She also plans to get a job this summer. Maybe she will make new friends there. It might also give H and I more time to ourselves. But what to do in the meantime???
I need to at least get H to come to bed sooner sometimes. He tends to stay downstairs for a while after I go to bed. By the time he comes up, I am half asleep and don't care anymore. I need to do something more direct to entice him. Both of us shower before going to bed. Maybe if I shower early and come back down with very little under my robe...
