Well, actually, my H dropped the D bomb and our sex life was just one issue amongst others.

In all honesty, as horrible as this whole sitch has been in many ways, I think it had to happen to open my eyes to a whole list of things both good & bad in our M/R.

Unfortunately, over the years, H may have tried to talk to me about the lack of ML in our R, but from MY POV, I don't think he made it clear how truly devestating my LD was to our R and I never understood or realized that he actually felt REJECTED by me not wanting to ML.

Does this answer your questions or do you need more info?

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10