OT, I'm about as "away for the weekend" as I can be, lmao. I pretty much flat out told him NO to Saturday. That I was not comfortable with the kids being with a sitter. I offered them to him all day Sunday, even though it's his sisters daughters 1st birthday party. I suggested a few other options as well. All he did was rant & rave at me. I stuck to my guns. Today, he emails me like nothing happened yesterday; with absolutely NO MENTION of the kids or if he's going to take them Sunday. He's such a pain in the arsss.
Where do I want to live, OT?? FLORIDA!! Loved it when I lived there. The thoughts that I had in the back of my mind where that I would come back here ("home") for a few years....lick my wounds; locate all the pieces of my shattered heart, start gluing them back together; get grounded; basically get my crap together....then, once I'm "ready", take it from there - wherever that may be. I also have a cousin on the coast of the North/South Carolina border, so I've thought about checking out that area as well.
I know that I'm not going to be happy living in this area - I never was growing up. That's why I got out of here in the first place. And also why I never minded moving around so much with SO and his job. But, one step at a time. I really feel that I just need to get myself together before I compulsively get in my beach chair at the tiki hut and set sail for Margaritaville!!
As for storing my things - well, no neutral parties have anywhere big enough to store the contents of a 3 bedroom+ house. I mean, it's everything, ya know? Beds; dressers; couches; desks; the complete Toys R Us inventory, lmao; plus the boxes. It's a LOT of stuff. And I have already gotten rid of everything I could in the last move!! I've downsized as much as I can. You only have one child - look at all the things that go with kids. And I have 3! I mean, their stuff alone is enough to fill a warehouse. LOL
On top of that, is the money issue. I only have the $4000 he gave me to get started. He's still only putting $600/month in my account; I haven't pressed for the $1200 yet because my things are still at his house....plus it's only been 2 weeks (even though it feels much, much longer than that!). I also did not want to ruffle feathers before the custody hearing. I'm scared to death - he's going to go ballistic when the kids' Law Guardian recommends supervised visitation. I am really just trying to keep a low profile about EVERYTHING until I see what shakes down Monday afternoon. I'm not worried about the support - it's been ordered by the judge, so he can't get out of it now. The judge left it up to us to decide when to start it, so.....I was planning on enforcing it once I got my things out.
So, back to the $$....I'm being extremely frugal about spending right now. I have to pay for the wedding I'm in next month (dress, shoes, hotel room 2 nights, gift, etc.). I'm almost sorry that I'm in it because it's costing so much. But, back when I said yes, I didn't foresee all this and it's too late to back out now.
One possible light....MIL mentioned that her brother was looking at an investment property....and that HE told her (meaning he came to her on his own, she never mentioned anything him) that if I was interested, he'd rent it to me, if the deal goes through. It's excited me, yet I know nothing's set yet....I don't even know where the house is or anything about it, so I'm trying not to get too "up" over it...and I'm still constantly scouring the papers for rentals, as well as asking around with local people. And, even if that does work out, it still means being here for 2-3 months until the closing. Argh. LOL We'll see what happens, I guess.
