Whore/Madonna Syndrome

[Heywyre]

I didn't really think this existed until I had to deal with it myself. My H has pretty much always been the LD partner, but I accepted it and worked around it (so to speak) however things progressively got worse and ended up with him having 2 A's within a 4-year period

finally it came out that he could have women sexually OR as friends but could not put the two of them together. Thus our problem. We have been the best of friends for the whole 19 years we have been together. The closer we get emotionally, the further apart we get sexually. We haven't ML in about 18 months and it was close to 2 years before that time. In the past 10 years I can count on one hand how many times we have ML - pretty sad eh? And, the really surprising thing is I'm still here!!

I love this man more than anything and I believe that he is finally ready to work on things. He admits to having too much respect for me to "use me" sexually - that is how he perceives it and it is going to take some drastic changes in both of us to move this to a better place

Any suggestions out there?