I think a HUGE part of it for women too is how they perceive sex, their bodies, their roles, etc. and what they have been taught to see these things as.

I had to change my mindset before I could change my actions.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10