Maybe I'm wrong about this, but I see that many of the women who are "HD" as opposed to "LD" minimize the conditions on their SL. In other words, the LD woman wants to be romanced, lots of AOS/WOA/GG, revving up of their "engine" before sex can occur. HD women want the same things, but they are not necessary conditions for sex. We often talking about jumping through hoops or walking on eggshells or passing tests, etc. But the HD woman has (as you say) come to the realization that her sexuality is an important part of her life, and thus acheives balance and a higher awareness of how R issues should be dealt with. The H is not sexually punished for other failings, those failings are dealt with in the appropriate context.
Anyway, just some random thoughts that have been brought up many times before.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
