Thanks for the long replies - lots to think about (more response later). For the moment, hot from the front:
Two new twists - now W seems to accept going to Boston (hm... wonder what changed?) and she has been paid for a job with a significant check. It will be interesting to see if she puts this check into our common account or if it disappears somewhere else. Putting it in the common account would be most fair, as I've been paying for everything for years, after all...
I somehow feel more at peace, too, probably due to the lack of things to anger or upset me for a while. My commitment to a D is reduced...
The 50/50 split thing will be hard for her, as I make much more than she does - maybe a fair compromise is to have her pay her airfare to Boston and contribute to the general welfare?
White caps on the lake, splashing on the sidewalk next to it, windy but getting slowly less (good, since I need to run 20 miles on Sunday), clanking sounds from the flagpole and houses around -
Gotta go - later -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
