You are right about not growing emotionally, he has been drinking for over 15 years and I do feel I am dealing with a regressing mind all the time.
I also agree with you about the drama... drama... drama... he used to tell me I cause so much drama, but it is him and I have told him that recently. The OW is also an alcoholic and quadrupals the drama...
Quote: Becoming a fixture of strength in your relationship is the very thing you must do, for your family's sake. That means that you become the rock unmoved by the ocean of drama surrounding you. That means you step out of the drama. _____________________________________________
Ok, how do I do the above? I thought I was doing pretty good with that. I would love to get away from all the BS drama they both cause!
Quote: You can't control your husband by appealing to him. _______________________________
I am finding this out the hard way I think... I thought when he came back, I am going to be everything and more she is to him and be so good and I am killing myself doing it with my job, I work everyday and I have 3 children, which I feel like a single mom anyway... but NOTHING changed, maybe for one week, but then right back to what he was doing before and I am still killing myself????????????? It's like I am not good enough and I will never be.???????????? UggggGGHHHH!
I did just recently read that book, twice, that's how I thought I pulled stuff out of the book that I tried that brought him home, but now what???????
Are you saying I give him an ultimatum again? He will tell me to go ##%#%#% myself and he will go to her more. That is a fact. I almost feel life telling him what he is back to doing now is the reason I filed for divorce before but I don't think I should even mention that word.
I did ask him about 2 weeks ago if he keeps doing the same things he did last time does he think he is going to get different result or the same result? When I say anything he gets so defensive and starts huffing and puffing and shows clearly he does not want me to say anything and gets nasty, too... he has me trained well... he can do whatever he wants and I can't say anything.
