The sex with the OW wasn't real. But with you, everything is and was real...and he cannot handle reality. And he also cannot handle faking things with you. He couldn't give you something unless it was real...that is the respect he has for you--and the respect he lacks for the the OW.
This actually just really hit a chord with me as well. I've been detaching great, PMA is nice and GAL has been working. W revealed EA after first MC, then left 2 weeks later. Reading this helps me deal even more if EA has turned into PA (which I suspect, but do not assume). I've ready myself for that bomb-drop, especially since W is getting her own place next week. But to put it in the terms of your quote makes it that much less of an issue.
Thanks
"I made the wall of shadow draw back, beyond desire and act, I walked on.
Oh flesh, my own flesh, woman whom I loved and lost, I summon you in the moist hour, I raise my song to you."
