Yes, you are ticked with his actions (rightfully or wrongfully so) and figure he should put on his "big boy pants" but are you any better by refusing to act grown up yourself? Come on, try and one-up him by showing him you are more mature, more grown up and have a little more pride than allowing him to get to you like that. You are giving him exactly what he wants to be able to say "no matter how much I try, you are never happy" and the way you are acting now really screams that.
Do you really think he is going to want to do anything to please you if you continue to act like you are now. I know I sure wouldn't want to. We all have to show unconditional love (a heck of a lot easier said than done, I know) but we have to be the ones that show them how its done. I don't know how many times I wanted to throw in the towel. Now I am getting comments from my H like "thanks for being by myside" - do you know how good that makes me feel? Is it like that all the time? Hell no! Do I still feel like throwing in the towel sometimes? You betcha! But I try to think of the good times (which are still way less than the bad - but they are catching up) and put them aside just for a little while. It gets easier, really it does
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
